Divorce if you will be happy alone!

A woman told me in confidence that she was planning to divorce her husband.
"If your husband isn't appreciating you, I fully understand your plans" I told her, but I also made her aware of the situation in this town. There are lots and lots of single women who don't find any new love, or at least not a love that lasts. "Don't expect to live in a relation, you might very well be alone for the rest of your life".

"If you're husband is mean to you I definitely think you should divorce him" I said, but you should also remember that your small children will be sad for years. Your divorce will remove the happiness from their lives, unless you and your husband both get much more happy than you are today.

"Hope you're not divorcing because you think you will get a more social life" I warned her, unless you know a lot of single women. The Swedish married woman isn't born who invites another single woman in her family and at her parties, especially not if there is a risk that a man might find the single woman attractive. And you can't have male friends as a single woman, forget it, even if you are old friends. If the man is married his wife will hate you. You can only socialize with other women, like having coffee together in the afternoon, unless you know other single women of course.

I told her to go ahead with her divorce, but she had to be aware of the risk of becoming completely alone. Next time I met her, she had given her husband a new chance.