I'm fed up with facebook

Now I know. I know what habits some of my facebook friends has. I know how often they have barbecue with friends, or do some other social activities. I know how often some of them are out running, and how fast they run. I know at what hotels some of them stay when they go on business trips and what restaurants they visit. I know how they spend their summer vacation and where their relatives live. I know that some of them do all the "small children activities" as I did with my children when they were younger. I know that some people need to write everything they do. I don't know why they need to expose more or less intimate details about their lives to hundreds of people. I know that many people are voyeurs, and pretend they aren't facebook users and share nothing, but yet they read everything everybody else writes. They keep themselves updated on the latest, as some sort of gossip.

Now I know that most of those people live their lives in exactly the same way day after day, week after week. They keep repeating themselves, at least when it comes to sharing with others. Some people try to look good, some try to look snobby, some try to look cultural, some try to look updated, some try to look loving, some try to look funny and witty. Very few are funny.

Some people like to share their insights with half a thousand, but they hate to get any objections. I would recommend writing a blog instead. Nobody needs to read. Nobody will complain that you write too much. The status line can be as long as you like. You don't fill up anyones gossip-overview-page. You know it's open for anyone to read so there are no surprises. The reason why people write on facebook is the same as writing a blog. We want to be seen. If nobody can see or hear me, do I exist?

Why should I log in and read about other people's more or less boring routines? I'd better live my own life.

Stop smiling! People don't trust a smiling woman.

I remember attending a presentation course with a colleague of mine. We were supposed to give each other feedback and I was sitting and watching my colleague present, when I suddenly knew what was wrong with her. Why I didn't believe a word she said, why she gave me a feeling of not being sure, why she looked awkward. She was smiling!

I told her to try not to smile and lean her head when talking. I'm pretty sure she thought my comment was intrusive, but she improved her performance a lot when she stopped smiling all the time. Suddenly one could trust her...

Now I'm watching the woman who is trying to become Sweden's first female statsminister on TV. I bet she won't ever become a minister, because people hate her. I don't know why people hate her, but I know why I instinctively don't like her. When she answers a question she smiles. It looks like a mean smile to me. She looks like "you just made my day by asking a question to which I have prepared a really good answer". If she looks like that, it doesn't matter what she is saying.

Smiling is not always such a good thing, and in the wrong context it can be absolutely devastating!

Elections time brings disrespect

Election time. Now it is revealed how journalists and politicians look upon us. It is not flattering! It is obvious that they just want us to feel. We shouldn't make any intelligent reasoning, we should just feel.

The journalism has now reached the level of three year olds in a sand box. One morning a Swedish morning paper that has "trustworthy" in their slogan (Svd) was showing how one party's symbol, a stylistic flower could become different stupid animals. It was the leader. Couldn't he come up with something else? Like a meaningful reasoning based on facts? Normally they make fun of some politician. I don't appreciate to read such things. Does everybody else? If they make fun of someone and it's not on the comic pages, I am pretty sure I cannot trust that paper at all.

The Swedish union for workers is also participating in the election campaign. On one of their posters there is a photo of prime minister face turned upside down. The comment is as follows "today a chamber maid who is payed by hour is paying 450 SEK per month in fee to her union, while many people with a high income only has to pay 90 SEK. That is mega wrong".

I don't think the chamber maid wants her union fee to be spent on election campaigns. And I don't see how that is the responsibility of the prime minister! When it comes to political parties, we can choose which one we should vote for, but many people cannot choose to be a member of any other union. Isn't that unfair?

And as a young member of the family said: those posters with people upside down make me puke! Please respect each other, and please respect the voters!

The one who is polishing the surface...

It strikes me that the one who is polishing the surface the most is not really happy with the content.

It seems the one who pretends to be the most snobby is trying to cover up what he doesn't like about his family and where he comes from.

I suspect that the one that looks the most generous really have some problems with jealousy and so forth.

These things are not new, they are just hard to remember and sometimes difficult to understand...

Maybe we are as small children who are focusing on things they aren't really good at? When they don't know how to climb they will practice until can, and when they don't know how to walk they will keep trying ...

Maybe we all are overdoing things until we are on top of them...?