Happy new day!

How can you make this day a happy day for someone else?
That's much easier, and probably much more benefitial than looking for happiness.
I will try not to tell a few people my opinion, which would not make them happy.
And try to make someone a little bit happy too..

This day, a new year

I've been away over Christmas. Now it feels like a new year already. Full of energy in the same way. I should definitely do a bit of traveling more often.

This year I'm going to believe in my dreams, whatever they happen to be like. And not pay too much attention to what other people think. We all live parallel lives, don't we.

I like Christmas, but I think New Year usually feels sad. My new year started today.

Christmas, alone or not

Some of my friends are going to spend Christmas alone. Not together with a family. Maybe they don't have one, or maybe they live far away, or maybe they choose not to. I do hope they're not going to be completely on their own. That would be a bit sad. I'm thinking of you.

Some of my friends are going to spend Christmas feeling alone, while they are together with their partners and with their family. That's a bit sad too, but most of the time it's their own choice. I'm not thinking of you.

Some people expect all their family members to play their different roles and be exactly as they always have been. The same role play, the same behavior and maybe even some familiar arguments? It gives us the possibility to watch ourselves and our dearest and remember the occasion for the future, and all the different roles. What role do you play in your family?

I've got a family to celebrate Christmas together with. There are other times of celebration, when you're supposed to be among friends, that I sometimes spend alone. Guess nobody is thinking of me then except my family. I'm happy I've got them.

Parent's mistakes

I am not a perfect parent. I don't pretend I ever was. On the contrary, I now understand things I should have done differently, as well as what mistakes my parents did.

Now I also notice other parents around me and what mistakes they do. I would like to tell them, but I know they won't listen. But it's classical things. If you tell a child that he or she is stupid, lazy, too small, too big, annoying, careless, evil or whatever negative things the parents experience, the child will grow up believing that's true. True forever. Forever true.

In Sweden parents get certain education when they are expecting a baby, education on how to give birth and so forth. Lot's of parents are interested in the evolution of their children too. But how about their own evolution and development? When the children aren't babies any more, are they behaving like their own parents or are they in any sense wiser?

There is one particular case that makes me frustrated. How can I make the parents aware without telling them what I think? They would just be angry and not listen.

Looking for

Maybe I should add that I'm just an unemployed middle aged woman who is looking for a job (still). How depressing isn't that?

Then when I get a job, I know happiness can't be taken for granted anyway, only salary and hopefully some colleagues.

Happiness is a separate issue that I'm also looking for. Or maybe love is what I'm looking for...

Some days

Some days I just say to myself that I don't want to do this any more, not participate in this any longer, but it doesn't seem to be any good options than continuing.

We don't know what the future has got for us, do we? All we know is the good things we have we won't have forever.

When do guys grow up?

Some guys have to tell everybody if they have been to a bar, how drunk they were and how stupid they behaved. We can easily imagine how silly they were without knowing all the details.

It is usually the same guys who make rude comments about women, women's body parts or clothes as if they were talking to other guys only, but they also do it while women are listening.

I can't help seeing a little shy boy who probably looks upon himself as strict and boring, but he is trying to tell us that if just get some alcohol he is for sure much more fun. Guess this little boy also want to tell us that he is not a virgin any longer, but he has been around and knows things about women.

This behavior makes perfectly sense for small boys who are trying to impress small girls, but grown up women are more interested in grown up men.

I've been wanting to explain this to a single man for years, but I never do, because it would just be mean, wouldn't it?

Automatic filtering on age

Let's say that you had a mask you could put on when you went out. Let's say you had different masks to choose between. You would then be able to see how people would behave differently depending on your looks.

I now feel I have that possibility to make a certain change in my looks, and the difference I see in people's behavior is amazing! When people believe I'm in the same age and having the same style they talk to me, but if I perceived as not in their age, they're not even interested to exchange a few words in a queue. Are we really that obsessed with age in this country, or is it maybe the same everywhere?

This experience is definitely a proof that it's not me who has changed, but the way I'm treated depending on my looks when growing older.

I do expect that when I'm even older, I will be able to walk anywhere and no anything wearing anything I like and most people will not even see me. Invisibility gives a certain freedom!

Good to know...

The looks

It seems men benefit from good looks when applying for a job, while women don't, according to some investigation. Yet, we try to look as good as we can...

A female human resource rather pick a good looking man than a good looking woman for an interview. A man on the other hand hesitates to pick a female applicant submitting a too good looking picture but believes a good looking man is smart, according to the papers.

Personally I believe someone who looks very strange or is very fat have more difficulties to get a job.

But the question is if I should wear my best suit and put on make up when I go for an interview? I still think so.

Feature?

Someone told me I was brave today. You don't see brave people often, was the message. It was meant as a compliment. I'm not sure I am brave, I would never dare to make a bungy jump for instance. But I do dare to speak my mind, and I am not afraid to confront people if necessary, which is not common in Sweden.

That's the way I am. Not Swedish main stream, and not always appreciated.

Nothing here, please search elsewhere

I'm so sorry if you have ended up on my blog through some mysterious link.

This is just a place where I write whatever comes into my mind. No train of thoughts or red thread to be found. At times when I'm a bit lonely and depressed the blogs tend to become even more uninteresting. Haha.

To look like a horse with cancer?

I'm watching Sex and the City and trying to understand why "Carrie" is so self confident and charming. I honestly think her face looks like a horse and she body looks like as if she has been having cancer for years. What does it tell us about the role model for women's bodies?

Her eyes are very beautiful at least when she wears makeup. Several people have complimented me for my eyes. Must try her way of wearing make up. I'm not longing to look as if I've got cancer because then I'm sure I'll get it. It must be possible to have some self confidence anyway. Somehow.

A celebration to the enlightenment

In Sweden we learn the European history, the darkness of middle age, as well as the times of enlightenment at school. The thoughts and the philosophy before the French revolution is very well known to most student, as well as how the ideas of equality and democracy came about in different countries etc.

I am not sure all students in the rest of the world is studying the European history as we do. In some countries I'm sure they study the history of their royal emperors, in other countries the history of their presidents.

The 10the of December the Nobel prize is handed out by the Swedish king. Listening to speeches and discussions around the subjects of the prices these days always feels enlightening, and is really in the tradition of the historic enlightening.

I believe the Nobel prize is encouraging young people to study, especially science. I believe it is a celebration to the success of science and evolution when people are allowed to question things. If you don't question the "state of the art" there is no evolution...

blog hello world instead of mail

"Pling" means I've got a new mail? No. It just means something has landed in my inbox. Most of the time some business or technical news. Too much of it. Not really that interesting. Not any longer.

Almost all the mails I get are automatically generated. Not especially intended for me. Most days I don't get any personal mails. It doesn't feel personal even if my name is included in the automatically generated mails.

I write this blog so I won't bother people with mails. So they don't need to feel guilty if they don't have the time or feel like answering.

Most people who are busy working receive too many mails. They think mails is a burden. I don't.

Sometimes, this feels like one of the first lines of software that you write: "Hello World!"

Wrong season again

Allergy in the winter. That's unfair. Allergy is something you have in the spring and maybe in the summer. Maybe at Christmas time, but not now.

No need to visit the doctor. He will just tell me it looks like allergy. Yes, I know.

He would ask if I've eaten something. Yes I have. Food.

New soap, new shampoo, new washing powder? Nope, don't think so.

Guess I'll just take another pill and pretend spring is here already.

As far as I remember this mysterious allergy happens every year. But this year I don't even have any Christmas flowers, just in case!

Tomorrow I will not eat anything to see what happens, but I already know what will happen.

I'll get hungry.

Inspired, even if the source is questionable

After having seen Woody Allen's latest movie, I can't admit I'm reading my horoscope can I?

Anyway, my horoscope tells me I'm going to start something big today. Let's say I will start something big one day, why not initiate it today?

Never mind, I just happen to sign up for things today. And think about possibilities...

You never know.

What are you looking for?

Are you looking for attraction and a flirt?

Are you looking for sharing thoughts and a soul mate?

Are you looking for someone to help and getting a loyal friend?

Are you looking for information or new ideas to get informed and inspired?

Are you looking for someone to fool and smile at?

Are you looking for weakness in order to feel superior?

Flirting is always nice, sharing thoughts are wonderful, getting help is marvelous, sharing information and ideas is satisfying. I don't mind being a little fool, but if you're looking for weakness you've come to the wrong place.

My best advice for success

Dear reader, you're very welcome to this blog.

My best learning from life is, don't do as your mother taught you. If she was raising you as I was raised to always tell the truth. Forget it, if you haven't already done that. It's a lousy advice from our dear mothers. They just wanted us to tell the truth to make their live easier. If you are a bit like me, you think it's easier to remember the truth, and not mess up with lies and different versions of truth adapted to different people. Truth is simpler, but trust me, it is devastating.

I don't tell everybody everything and always the whole truth, but that's not enough. I have to start adapting my story even more. It is so simple, just tell people what they want to hear. Don't make it complicated.

So my device from now on, will be to try my best to say what people want to hear. Always. That's how to be a winner.

Hope you have a nice day. Take care of yourself, whoever you are.

Don't know if this one is cheering up..

But I think this is a good one.

What passion?

I've learned that passion is important. One should be passionate about work in order to succeed.
Therefor one should find something to be passionate about.

People describe me as engaged. Isn't that almost the same thing, just a bit more civilized?

I am not passionate about anything just now. Not even Christmas. I usually love Christmas carols.

Un-passionate, im-passionate, non-passionate or de-passionate, that's the question....